儒家社会体系的后果

Blame it on the Confucian social system. Under this system the oldest male in a family unit (usually the husband) sets the rules and everyone within the family unit must obey his unquestionable authority. Under this system a “good women” will not question her husband and will do everything in her power to support him and have unshakable devotion and loyalty. She will be faithful to him and raise his children.

The husbands chief duties are to “the” family, but this is not referencing his own personal family unit but rather the family unit of his parents. He must honor and do all sorts of stuff for his parents and the family in general, especially if he’s the oldest son of his father. His wife must also follow suit and take care of the husbands parents, never mind her own. She must do this without complaint regardless of how badly the son’s mother treats her, because she’s not good enough for the the older mothers “perfect” son.

Notice in all this that there is nothing saying the husband can’t / shouldn’t go screw around with other women? There is nothing mentioning how he must respect or value his wife’s opinion. Its a one way street, the wife obeys the husband, end of story. If she doesn’t then he gets to smack her around until she does. Any doubter need only look at Korean’s (and China’s) domestic violence laws (or lack thereof). You see a man smacking around his wife, you get the police, they’ll take one look and tell you to go mind your own business because its a “family situation”.

What modern educated women wants to put herself into that situation? Its practically servitude of the rest of your life. Your enslaved not only to your husbands wish’s and desires, but also to his mothers and fathers. You will have to wash and feed his aging mother, even as she curse’s you and tells you how bad you are. Chinese marriages are the same way, its all bad for the women.

Now steps in the westerner, having already gone through the women’s liberation several generations ago, we’re MUCH more understanding and respectful about marriage. A western marriage is more about being a 50/50 partnership then a dictatorship. Just think on that for a little while.